When you first have a baby sex is the furthest thing from your mind. It’s what got you into this mind-numbingly painful situation in the first place so why would you possibly want to repeat it. (I mean seriously – I couldn’t sit down for days.) You know it’s off the cards for the next six weeks, what’s another six months.. or years..? When the public health nurse broaches the subject of birth control on her final visit you brush it off like she just asked you where you bought your new Zara coat. I think I (definitely not) casually flicked my hair, threw my eyes to heaven and swore myself abstinent for the foreseeable future. She responded with raised eyebrows and a knowing look. Because she was right. Believe it or not, the day will come when you’re ready to get back up on that saddle, and really,  isn’t it better to be prepared?

  1. Most would think step 1 involves a trip to your beautician for a em, tidy up down there or an attempt at it yourself with your leg in an obscure position in the shower. But no. Before you even contemplate getting your lady bits ready you need to get your lady bits ready! Yes, I’m talking about birth control. However much you love your little bundle of joy imagine having two under the age of one and suddenly it’s not so joyous anymore. Get to your GP and have it sorted ASAP or your mom will be like the one in Mean Girls who fainted when she got the results from Planned Parenthood.
  2. Now you can consider the tidy up. Invest in some new lingerie. Buy a tube of Veet. Make yourself feel pretty! Pretty means different things to different people. Leave it long. Cut it short. Do whatever you want. As long as you are comfortable that is all that matters. There are no rules when it comes to sex.
  3. Choose your partner wisely. You’re bound to feel a bit nervous doing the deed again for the first time in a long time. Whether you’ve been together for years or it’s someone who knows you a little less well, make sure it is with someone you trust. Make it a moment you don’t want to forget, not one filled with regret.

Most importantly: breath. Don’t over think it. Bask in the moment. Enjoy yourself. Being a mom is a full-time job, you never know when you will get the chance again!